Danny Writes: Solitary

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Knowing when it’s time to keep things to yourself is a skill. That includes keeping yourself to yourself, your plans to yourself and your opinions to yourself.

It’s a skill so many of us are yet to master and a skill that many of us choose to suspend from time to time. Apps like Snapchat and Twitter make it easy to air private matters for validation in the form of views, likes and retweets but how often do these bursts of quick gratification allow us to shoot for something greater? Certainly, achieving something truly substantial would take much more time, effort and creativity than a selfie?

Because many of these social media platforms require you to, well, have a social life; the more social we are the more we frequent the apps for those quick bursts of approval. I sometimes think if Mark Zuckerberg, the creator of Facebook, would’ve been able to access the creative ‘zone’ required to create if he himself had been distracted by alerts of likes and retweets if similar platforms had existed.

Then I ask myself the same question. Does the need to maintain a social life distract me from creating something more meaningful?

It’s definitely easier said than done; to distance yourself from people who make you happy but surely there has to be a balance? If you give all your time to other people, you won’t have time for yourself. On the other hand, if you keep all your time to yourself, you won’t have time for other people and loneliness is never a positive thing. There has to be a balance.

Don’t believe me? Think about all the various famous and successful people you know and ask yourself how many of them still keep in touch with their old friends. Very few can say that. Besides the busy schedules and change of lifestyle, if a friend is monumental in either giving you the confidence to achieve your goals, or actually helping you to get there; you’ll keep them in your life no matter what.

But that’s rarely the case because whether we like it or not, most of our ‘friends’ are there for quick gratification. Whether it be eating out, eating in, nights out or nights in; I can count on one hand the friends who remind me that there’s a lot more to shoot for in life than a 9-5 that pays the bar bill and the club’s entry fee.

From introverts to extroverts, our society is divided between those who thrive on as much social interaction as possible; and those who prefer it in selective moderation. My experience in school was literally the quieter you were the more smarter you likely were and I didn’t understand that until I realised that quietness doesn’t necessarily equate to shyness. To be deliberately quiet, there’s a thought process that accompanies it. It may not be that you’re more naturally gifted than anyone else, but deciding not to be distracted meant they listened more and held on to more information subconsciously than loud mouthed Jessica who spoke over the teacher.

It all depends on what you want ultimately. These are the years of your life, you’re living in a present you’ll one day reminisce as the past. To enjoy these days is imperative. To know when to ‘suffer’ is too. Exams have always been one of the best examples of this, you can always tell by results who suffered more and who decided to prioritise an illusion.

So simply ask yourself what you want in this life, the bigger it is the more you’ll have to give towards it. Hats off to anyone who’s able to maximise their social life and still give the rest of their time for their aspirations. As for me?

Well, I’d rather turn my notifications off for a couple days.



Courtesy of: Solitary

2 Comments on “Danny Writes: Solitary”

  1. I have an idea for a blog post (not yet written) and would like to include a link to this blog post. Would that be OK with you? I think your assertions are even more valid than ever in the fast-paced, ultra-connected world of electronic media and social exchange (she wrote on her computer through just such devices and apps). Ah well, it’s not ALL bad. 🙂

I read all replies :)